Steps
1.Analyze the situation. How nerdy are you? Are you a nerd
at all? We're not talking about how smart you are. You need to figure
out how people perceive you, for the most part. Slightly dorky, but
mostly cool? A normal kid with a geeky side? A total social outcast? Someone you wouldn't expect to have good grades? Don't let what you find out in this step get you down or make you arrogant.
Others' opinion of you isn't the end of the world. We are just using it
as a tool for your personal development. Besides, you're not really
"nerdy." You're just smart and you happen to be capable of forming
interests without the validation of the mainstream.
2.Learn to listen.
Sometimes you might not notice that you are talking and think that
people are actually interested but they are annoyed or bored. If you
can't think of anything to say ask a question that is not too lame. Most people like to talk about themselves. It's good to be talkative
and able to hold up a conversation, but make sure to let the other
person or people speak - really listen when they are talking. Practice
your speaking skills with people you feel comfortable with, like a sibling or neighbor.
3.Do not talk too much about your personal life. If someone asks what you like to do for fun, don't lie. Just answer honestly (no matter how geeky the answer is). But do not go into much detail. For example, if you like to make web-pages, don't say "I make the best web-pages without even using any programs. I make them with NotePad because I memorized HTML and I'm fluent in JavaScript, and I hate how the WYSIWYG editors force you to conform (conformity is so
mainstream) and to relax I like to play MMORPGS, Warcraft on the
Dalaran server, to be specific, blah-blah-blah." Just say, "I like to
use the computer and play videogames." If they ask you specifically, say
"I make websites", or "I like to play Warcraft". Don't go into details,
unless you're asked, because most people don't care. They're just
making conversation (something you'll soon be doing). If you play a
sport or do something else in your free time, like go shopping, go to
the beach, watch movies or eat at your favorite restaurant, you might want to mention that too, in order to downplay your "nerdy" hobbies. Make sure you ask them what they like to do, as most people are quite happy to talk about themselves.
4.Avoid getting obsessed with things that don't really matter. For example, do not care about your post count on any forum. Or don't care about your page views. The point of forums/communities
are to share thoughts, ask questions and discuss topics, not have
65,405 posts and 485 topics with 6,584 replies. Life is too short to
freak out about stuff like that. Go outside and get some fresh air or learn to play an instrument
instead of wasting your time with that. And if it really is that
important to you, you probably don't want to mention that to most
people.
5.Do not brag.
Do not try to say that you are better than someone through bragging.
You think you're being cool, but bragging is annoying, and that makes
you annoying. Don't be a know-it-all who always corrects people's
grammar and ideas either.
6.Do not do pointless things that other people label as "cool." For example, care more about knowledge than your grades. Fail rather than cheat. Have some integrity and class!
7.Disregard what some idiots think about you. Don't even respond if someone insults you (unless you want to look up some snippy comebacks).
You know that you're cool. Don't lower your mentality to theirs! If
they keep bothering you, you can walk away, or use one of those snippy comebacks and then walk away.
8.Have good hygiene. Nothing screams "NERD!" like gunky teeth, greasy hair and too-small clothes. It is kind of sad that people place so much importance on looks, but it is the truth. For right now, it's best to just stay healthy and clean for wellness's sake. Shower daily, brush your teeth, floss, wear deodorant/antiperspirant and brush your hair.
You might want to save up for money to buy new clothes if you are sick
of people making fun of yours. You don't have to buy exactly what the
"popular" kids wear, but something stylish and flattering works fine.
Ask a friend if you need help. If you have glasses
that you think detract from your appearance a lot, you can always try
contacts. If you can't wear contacts for some reason (sensitive corneas,
for instance), don't worry about it. Plenty of really cool and smart
people wear glasses. And don't worry about people thinking braces
are dorky. See all those perfectly straight teeth on the movie stars?
Most of those have had to deal with years of orthodontic treatment.
11.Be an easy to talk to person.
People like to be able to talk to someone smart without having to feel
stupid. If someones asks you something really simple to you like, "What
is pi?" don't say "I'm not telling". You'll just become a total jerk and
super uncool. Say something like "Here, I'll show you" and when you've
explained it in an easy form, say, "It seems hard but it's really not"
and when they thank you say "Any time!" This makes you a likeable person
that can help people a gain new perspective. And if people start taking
advantage of you, all the better! You could show the fact that you're a
self-reliant kid, and you can stick up for your self by saying
something like, "I'm here to help you, not to baby you".
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